There I was. In a shuttle bus on the way to the La Rabida Monastery in Huelva, Spain traveling through a gorgeous country I've never before stepped foot in. A countryside of rolling hills and small towns moving past me of which I may never see again. Instead of having my face pressed up against the window to take in the scene around me, it was glued to my phone as I played a mindless game to kill the time.
That's when it finally clicked. Even though I've been conscious of it before, that's when I really came to terms with the fact that I am addicted to my phone.
Like I'm sure a lot of people do, I've tried to justify this addiction anytime I'm questioned or pressed about it. "I have to be on Twitter for work" is one of my go-to's, and while it's true that I use Twitter for networking and scanning news headlines, it's not a valid reason why I spent over seven hours this past week on social media apps alone.
By nature, smartphones are designed to pull us in and keep us there for as long as possible. Twitter wants you to spend as much time as you want scrolling through your timeline, Amazon would love for you to check its app multiple times each day looking at deals, and YouTube would do anything to get you to spend all of your waking hours watching video after video.
The apps we use make money on our attention, whether it be serving us ads or pushing products in our face until we finally tap the buy button.
Last year, we saw efforts from Google and Apple to help us reduce phone usage and focus on our "digital wellbeing." Hop on any Android phone running Pie or your friend's iPhone, and you'll find tools built into the operating system to help you set limits on how long you can use apps and readily see how much you're using your phone throughout the day.
Initially, I was really excited about features like this because I thought it'd make a noticeable difference in how I use my phone. They made an impact at first, but as time went on, I simply ignored and stopped using them.
A lot of that definitely falls on me not taking full responsibility for my usage habits, but at the same time, how useful are these tools?
Google and Apple both talk a big game about wanting to help people minimize the usage of their devices, but in all honesty, the efforts aren't genuine in the slightest. Both of these companies benefit the more you use their apps and services, and while they might create one thing to help you use your phone less, they've got a million of other apps/services waiting for you to consume and spend money on.
That's not necessarily a fault of those companies, though. They're not responsible for our mental wellbeing and exist to make a profit.
So, if that's the case, where do we go from here? What steps do we take to get better? I've been asking myself that for the last few days, and I'm honestly not so sure.
One thing that I do think has helped a bit, at least for me personally, is smart speakers.
Prior to things like Google Home (opens in new tab) and Amazon Echo (opens in new tab), I'd hop on my phone to do things like check the weather, add an event to my calendar, see what movies are coming out this week, or just look up random questions that come to mind — all things that would result in me getting on my phone with a single task in mind only to end up spending far too long getting sidetracked by this, that, and the other thing.
Because of that, I'm really glad we have smart speakers and am beyond excited to see where we take this technology next. Even on things like the Google Home Hub (opens in new tab) which have a screen, it's designed to serve you the information you need and then get out of your way so you can carry on with your day.
If you ask me, I don't ever see smartphones adopting that same idea. I mean, devices like the Palm Phone (opens in new tab) have tried, but we all know how that turned out.
I think that's what has me so unsettled about my realization. I'm aware of how much I'm using my phone and want to do something about it, but I've yet to find a method or practice that makes a genuine difference. I'm sure plenty of people will comment saying I'm lazy and that I need to just put my phone down, but that's far easier said than done. It's obviously not anywhere on the same level, but it's like telling a person to quit smoking cold turkey. Some folks can pull it off, but for others, it's not an option.
I felt even more dishartend by this addiction on my flight back home from my trip to Spain. I sat next to someone who is studying abroad at a local college where I live, and talking with him during the flight, he mentioned the culture-shock of coming to the U.S. where everyone is constantly on their phones and so anti-social. In his country, he said that people are far more outgoing and willing to strike up a face-to-face conversation on a dime. That just does not happen in the U.S., at least not with the majority of people in my age group, and I genuinely wish that was different.
So yeah, that's where I'm at right now with my addiction. I've acknolwedged it before, but it wasn't until last week when it really set in that something needs to change. I've yet to figure out what that consists of, but if you have any tactics that have worked for you, I'd love to hear them.
And with that said, I'm going to get off my computer, not look at my phone, and take in the world around me. Or at the very least, try my hardest to do that. Just let me check this notification first.
Some of my favorite non-addictive tech
Google Home Hub (opens in new tab) ($99 at B&H)
Even though it has a display, the Google Home Hub isn't a device you want to sit down and use for hours on end. It has the Google Assistant to read and show information or answer questions so you can get on with your day.
Kindle (2019) (opens in new tab) ($90 at Amazon)
I don't read nearly enough, but with the Kindle, it's a lot more accessible. This new model now has a backlight for easier reading outdoors, tons of settings to fine-tune your experience, and supports audiobooks.
Samsung Galaxy Watch Active (opens in new tab) ($200 at Samsung)
Not having to pick up your phone each time you get a notification can help curb your addiction, and with the Galaxy Watch Active, you can see who wants your attention just by glancing at your wrist.
It's all about FEAR. Figure out what you're afraid of if you turn your phone off, and deal with it in a healthy manner. Easier said then done? Perhaps, but that is the foundation of the problem and the solution.
I was feeling the same way about my phone usage as I took some time to ponder my life last December (a practice I do each year between Christmas and New Years Eve). I loved my phone too much and, as a result, I was missing other things that I knew were more important. In light of this, I made the decision to buy myself a phone that I would want to use for work and not be as tempted to be on outside of work. After looking at the options, I bought a BlackBerry Key2. No top of the line specs, a smaller screen because of the keyboard and hidden app icons because of the keyboard shortcuts. While setting it up, I made the decision to only put on the apps I needed for work. This removed the temptation to play with my phone even more. Over the course of time, if i realized I missed or needed an app, I would add it but, overall, my phone usage is down and my interaction with the real world is up.
Do you still use the phone for music?
I work in marketing and social media, so I have a constant connectivity problem too. I've found three strategies that help me a lot. 1. I have do-not-disturb scheduled to come on every day from 6PM to 7AM. Only "favorite" contacts can get through, everything else is silenced. I've found this really helps me avoid those times where you go to check one notification, then end up spending 20 minutes scrolling. 2. I put my phone on lockdown mode (disable finger print login), and away in my bedroom when I get home, instead of leaving it in my pocket. It's much less tempting to scroll through social feeds when you have to make the physical / mental effort to go get your phone and type in your pin, instead of just reaching into your pocket and scanning your finger. 3. I turn my phone OFF when I am socializing or at an event. Not on silent, but off completely. Brunch, meetings, dinners, etc. These three simple strategies actually cover a lot of ground. Basically any time I'm A) with people, or B) at home, my phone is out of focus. It took awhile to get used to not having my phone within arms reach (and like you, I find that having smart speakers helps a lot, especially since I can use them for casting stuff to the TV). But now it's just normal and it actually makes me feel like I have a lot more time in the day.
The only way this will ALL stop if they pull the plug on the internet! Heck we survived ok way before the internet started and people seems more happy. Now it's all about the likes and the hey look at me culture, pull the plug or it will never stop.
Personally, I do not see what the big deal is. I may use the phone on the toilet of if I am waiting on something. However, almost everything I do daily is on desktop computers and I love building those. I have 3 gaming machines at home and enjoy being on those but, sometimes, I just lose interest and turn them off. The phone is sometimes easier on the eyes when I am following alone in church or Bible Study though, so there is that.
Yes! It's so crazy how easy it is to get sucked in to phone use for hours and hours. For that reason I started a company called Offgrid Mindfulness and developed an alarm clock + meditation timer to help me get my phone out of my bedroom. Can't overstate how much better I feel. Thanks for writing this on a platform developed to a phone OS. Cheers :)
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